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Tapping Results

 

The Tapping Solution Foundation provides free resources to communities all over the world, including supporting schools & families, and providing trauma relief.

Read our collection of testimonials from individuals who have benefited from the power of Tapping & the support of our Foundation.



Tapping in Schools

 

“This is the greatest gift as an educator.”

“My name is Gia Nelson and I’ve been using tapping in the classroom for almost 5 years now. The impact it has had on my life, my students lives and even my family, is incredible. Being able to refocus my students, calm anxieties, and help manage students emotions has changed the way I teach and the way kids learn when they are under my care. Some of my students have even been using the technique in everyday life outside the classroom. This is the greatest gift as an educator. I know I’m making a difference in many lives because I see evidence within minutes of tapping in the classroom! Children focus better, feel calmer and safer after we tap. I’ve even noticed they feel more normal, more sympathetic towards each other and themselves. I’m so grateful to have this tool as an educator and as a human!”

Blessings,
Gia Nelson
Upland, California, USA

 

Ms. Gia’s students share about how they use Tapping to persevere and manage their feelings. 


“Tapping has become an invaluable part of our morning routine!”

“I have implemented the tapping solution in my Kindergarten classroom for the last two years. It has made an amazing impact on my young students. The positive effects include:

  • students are willing and able to share their feelings
  • students feel more positive about themselves
  • they are willing to take academic risks and persevere
  • they can concentrate and focus better
  • there is a huge reduction in behavior issues
On days that we do not get to do tapping, I see a huge difference in my students and an increase in behavior problems. The calming and self motivating effects that tapping has are remarkable. I recently asked one of my former students (a child with severe emotional issues) what his favorite part of Kindergarten was and he said, “tapping.” My young students love to tap with me each day, and it has become an invaluable part of our morning routine!”
Lorrie Tine
Kindergarten Teacher
Connecticut
Ms. Tine uses Tapping with her Kindergarten students during a morning meeting. She adapts the process to meet her students where they are that day and acknowledges the feelings of her students, while setting positive intentions for the day. 


“Her fears were gone.”

Lily Flores, the psychologist at the Escuela Integrada in Antigua, used tapping with a shy first grade girl, Velvet, who was experiencing nausea and vomiting as a result of her fears of a recent and local volcanic eruption and of all the suffering from the aftermath in Guatemala. Immediately after the first session of Tapping with Ms. Flores, Velvet’s fear decreased significantly (see picture of her showing with her hand how she was feeling) and according to her mother she stopped suffering from vomiting and nausea completely. After her second session, she reported (using her hands again) that her fears were gone.

 

A note from Ms. Flores about Velvet (English translation below):

 

“A raíz de la erupción del volcán de fuego, una de las secuelas que dejó  a Velvet quien cursa Primero Primaria a pesar que no estuvo directamente en el desastre,  fue afectada emocionalmente, por lo cual se atendió apoyándola con la técnica de Liberación Emocional Tapping, lo cual ha logrado superar el temor que tenia a que la lava llegara a su casa.”

Abrazos.
Atte.  Lily Flores
Escuela Integrada
Antigua, Guatemala

“As a result of the eruption of Fuego volcano, Velvet who is in first grade was suffering emotionally even though she was not in the disaster area. She was treated with the technique of EFT Tapping and was able to overcome the fear of the lava reaching her house.”

Hugs.
Lily Flores
Psychologist, Escuela Integrada
Antigua, Guatemala

 

Velvet draws a picture of the volcano that erupted near her community, creating severe anxiety that manifested in nausea and vomiting.

 

Velvet shows how her anxiety shifted by using her hands, a method commonly used with younger aged children to conceptualize a typical rating scale of 0-10.

 

You can read more about Tapping and how it has impacted Velvet’s school by visiting here.



Tapping for Trauma Relief Worldwide

“Tapping became an important part of my recovery.”

“I was at Route91 in Las Vegas during which the mass shooting took place. Needless to say, my world was changed in those 10 minutes that seemed to last a lifetime. Tapping became an important part of my recovery. It helped me process the mixture of emotions I felt, especially my fear, anger and survivors guilt. My life is forever changed from the experience that day but I’ve committed to focus on my own growth vs traumatic memories from the past. I’m grateful I knew about tapping and made my recovery a priority.”

 

Victoria Scovel
Las Vegas, Nevada

 

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How to Support Your Kids’ Emotional Health During a Divorce

This post contains excerpts from The Tapping Solution for Parents, Children and Teenagers.

 

Processing Emotions Through Tapping

Managing the emotional upheaval and stress of divorce is especially overwhelming when you’re also trying to support your children through the transition. While you may feel stressed by the many logistical, financial, practical and emotional issues you’re facing, your children may simultaneously be struggling with their own conflicting emotions. The stress that results can make daily life enormously challenging.

Given what a widespread and complex topic divorce is for parents and children alike, The Tapping Solution for Parents, Children and Teenagers takes a look at several stories of how parents have used Tapping on themselves, and then introduced Tapping to children as a way to process and release their many emotions. I urge you to read this book if you’re working through divorce in your personal life and would like the tools to support yourself and your family.

To begin, let’s take a look at how you, as a parent, can use Tapping to move through the process with more ease and grace.

 

Announcing Separation/Divorce

After Marta and her husband finalized their decision to separate, she knew it was time to share the difficult news with their 3 children. Their dad would move out of the house soon, and the children needed to know what was happening. On the afternoon when she’d planned to give them the news, however, Marta felt so anxious that she began to feel physically ill.

Recognizing that she needed to calm herself first, Marta closed the door to her room and began Tapping on her panic and nausea, as well as her fear and worry about how her kids would react. She also did some Tapping on a seizing pain she was feeling in her back, along with her intermittent dizziness and a swelling sensation in her throat.

Once her panic as well as her emotional and physical symptoms had subsided, she felt calm enough to begin thinking about what she would say to her children. As she continued Tapping through the points, she practiced what she would say, how she would say it, and in what order. She also tapped on the anxiety she was feeling about the questions they might ask her, and whether they would blame her for the separation.

An hour later, Marta emerged from her room feeling relatively calm and confident. She then sat down with her children and gently shared the news with understanding and compassion. To her surprise, she didn’t feel overwhelmed by her own emotions. Instead, she was able to be present for them during these difficult moments. She listened to them speak, soothed them as they cried, and was able to support them in every way she could without feeling any emotional backlash of her own.

Thanks to Tapping, Marta was able to give her children what they most needed—her full presence.

Let’s take a look at how you, too, can use Tapping to feel calmer and more present when you share the news of your divorce with your kids, as well as family and friends.

 

Adult Tapping: Announcing Divorce

To begin, find a quiet space where you will be uninterrupted, and take 3 deep breaths. Focus your attention on sharing the news of your divorce with your children.

As you think about it, do a mental scan of your body, and notice how different parts of your body feel. Is your stomach queasy? Do you feel pain, tightness or clenching anywhere? Do you feel hot or cold anywhere? Any numbness? Try to notice everything you feel in your body.

On an emotional level, what do you feel most intensely—anxiety, dread, anger, fear?

Put all of these together—your emotions and any sensations you feel in your body. How overwhelming does it all feel? Give it a number on a scale of 0 to 10.

Take a deep breath and begin by Tapping 3 times on the Karate Chop point.

 

Karate Chop (Repeat 3 times): Even though I feel all this overwhelm in my body, heart, and mind, I love myself and accept how I feel.

Eyebrow: So overwhelmed
Side of Eye: I can feel it in my body
Under Eye: I can feel it in my heart
Under Nose: All this overwhelm
Under Mouth: I don’t think I can tell them
Collarbone: I don’t think I can share this news
Under Arm: So painful to think about
Top of Head: All this overwhelm

Eyebrow: I feel it in my body
Side of Eye: And in my emotions
Under Eye: I can let myself feel it now
Under Nose: I’m not sure I can tell my kids about the divorce
Under Mouth: It’s too painful
Collarbone: What if they hate me for it?
Under Arm: Our lives will never be the same
Top of Head: So much overwhelm

Eyebrow: It’s okay to feel it now
Side of Eye: Letting myself feel all this overwhelm now
Under Eye: The queasiness in my stomach
Under Nose: The pounding in my head
Under Mouth: I can let myself feel it all now
Collarbone: And I can let it go
Under Arm: I can release this overwhelm
Top of Head: Letting it go now from every cell in my body

 

Take a deep breath, and notice how overwhelmed you feel now when you think about telling your children about the divorce. Give this feeling a rating of 0-10. Has it decreased? Tune into your body and notice any change that’s happened. You may feel you need to keep Tapping in order to get the desired relief. Pay attention to what your mind and body are telling you.

 

You can download this child-friendly Tapping diagram, along with many other free resources, here. 

 

Releasing Confusion Around Mommy vs. Daddy

When Kimberly first learned about her parents’ divorce, she had insisted she only wanted to be with her dad. Later, however, she changed her mind, and announced that she only wanted to be with her mom, Deanna.

Recognizing Kimberly’s confusion, her mom asked her if she could tap on her one day. When Kimberly nodded yes, she began Tapping through the points on Kimberly while saying, “I really want to be with Mommy” and then, “I really want to be with Daddy,” and later, “I’m so confused. I love Mommy and Daddy!” After a couple of rounds, Kimberly nodded, acknowledging the confusion that she was feeling.

A couple of weeks later, Dad came to visit and to pick her up. Overwhelmed by his presence, Kimberly initially threw a fit, exclaiming that she didn’t want to leave her mommy. Deanna quietly accompanied Kimberly to her bedroom, telling her ex that they’d quickly finish getting ready.

In the privacy of Kimberly’s room, Deanna asked her if she could tap on her.

Kimberly nodded yes. Deanna then began Tapping through the points on Kimberly as she voiced her daughter’s confusion again. This time, she tailored her Tapping to what was happening at that moment, using phrases like “I really want to stay with Mommy” and “I also want to go with Daddy.” After one round of Tapping, Kimberly smiled her biggest smile, and ran out of the room toward her father. “I’m ready! Bye, Mom. See you later!” she exclaimed excitedly.

I love this story because it’s such a powerful example of how Tapping can cut through the emotional fog and allow kids, as well as parents, to release the emotions they’re feeling. While sharing this story, Deanna, who participated in my Parents Group program, noted that she’d been using Tapping on herself, as well. Tapping had allowed her to be present for her children in challenging moments like these, even though she herself was managing a long list of competing priorities.

 

Child Tapping: Releasing Confusion Around Mommy vs. Daddy

Since divorce divides Mom and Dad into two different “camps,” younger as well as older children may experience confusion around needing to “choose” a parent. That confusion may also create a tendency to blame one parent more than the other for the divorce. Let’s look at how to use Tapping to work through that confusion.

Reminder: Be sure to do your own Tapping first, since it’s important to respect and honor how your child is feeling, even when their emotions are upsetting to you.

You can download this child-friendly Tapping diagram, along with many other free resources, here. 

Have your child rate his/her confusion on a scale of 0 to 10, or using the “this much” method of measurement. If your child is not yet able to understand the concept of a 0 to 10 scale, the “this much” method of measurement can be done by extending their arms wide apart, showing their feeling with how far apart their arms are. They can hold their arms far apart to show strong emotion, and closer together to show less severity of the emotion.

Karate Chop (Repeat 3 times): Even though I feel confused about the divorce and feel like I need to choose between Mommy and Daddy, I’m a great kid and I’m okay.

Eyebrow: I want to be with Mom
Side of Eye: I want to be with Dad
Under Eye: I want to be with Mom & Dad
Under Nose: I don’t like this divorce
Under Mouth: I’m so confused
Collarbone: I love Mommy
Under Arm: And I love Daddy
Top of Head: I don’t understand this

Eyebrow: I love Mom
Side of Eye: And I love Dad, too
Under Eye: I don’t like this divorce
Under Nose: It’s so confusing
Under Mouth: That’s okay
Collarbone: I don’t have to choose
Under Arm: I can keep loving Mom
Top of Head: And keep loving Dad, too

Eyebrow: Sometimes I can spend time with Dad
Side of Eye: And other times with Mom
Under Eye: I don’t have to choose
Under Nose: I can love Mom and Dad
Under Mouth: Things are going to be different
Collarbone: It makes me feel sad
Under Arm: But I’m okay
Top of Head: It’s safe to keep loving Mom and Dad

Have your child take a deep breath and then measure his/her confusion once again. Keep Tapping until s/he gets the desired relief.

Child Tapping: Releasing Blame & Anger over Divorce

If your child is angry and blames you or your ex-spouse for the divorce, ground yourself by Tapping on your own emotional reactions first.

When you’re ready, have your child rate his/her anger and blame, either on a scale of 0 to 10 or using the “this much” method of measurement.

Take a breath and then begin by Tapping 3 times on the Karate Chop point.

Karate Chop (Repeat 3 times): Even though I’m so angry about the divorce, it’s all your fault, and I refuse to forgive you, I’m a great kid and I’m okay.

Eyebrow: So angry
Side of Eye: It’s your fault
Under Eye: Everything’s falling apart
Under Nose: And it’s your fault
Under Mouth: So much anger
Collarbone: I hate this divorce
Under Arm: It feels like my whole world is falling apart
Top of Head: So angry

Eyebrow: I blame you for this
Side of Eye: And I won’t forgive you
Under Eye: It’s your fault
Under Nose: And I’m so angry
Under Mouth: It’s safe to feel this anger
Collarbone: And safe to feel this blame
Under Arm: I can let myself feel it all now
Top of Head: And I can let it go

Eyebrow: All this anger
Side of Eye: All this blame
Under Eye: Letting it all go now
Under Nose: It’s safe to feel this anger and blame
Under Mouth: And safe to let it all go
Collarbone: I can relax and feel safe now
Under Arm: I don’t like this divorce
Top of Head: But I’m a great kid and I’m okay

Take a deep breath and have your child rate the intensity of his/her anger and blame now. Keep Tapping until s/he gets the desired relief. If other emotions arise while Tapping, tap on releasing those as well.

 

Can I use Tapping for…?

In The Tapping Solution for Parents, Children and Teenagers  you can learn more about Tapping for divorce, specifically around anger, sadness, adjusting to a new home, releasing self-blame, accepting a new partner, and more. You can also read how Tapping can be used for many needs, such as anxiety, impulsivity, social concerns, and MANY more!

Whether your child is managing emotions surrounding your divorce, or you’d like to prepare yourself before talking with your child, this book will support you in understanding your role and providing specific tools to encourage healthy processing of this difficult time.

The best part is that with every purchase of this book, 100% of the proceeds, in perpetuity, will be donated to The Tapping Solution Foundation to continue bringing free EFT Tapping resources to schools and families, and providing trauma relief around the world.

Until next time…

Keep Tapping!

Nick Ortner

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Social Emotional Learning Program Includes Tapping

Spotlighting Social & Emotional Learning

“One of the most important recommendations contained in this report is the need to expand social and emotional learning“  writes Governor Sununu of New Hampshire as he shared his School Safety Preparedness Taskforce Report to all school personnel in the state.

New Hampshire has been leading the nation with its redefined extensive focus on Social and Emotional Learning (SEL) in schools. The Governor’s School Safety Preparedness Taskforce Report highlights the significant need for SEL in all schools, specifically an explicit comprehensive program, like the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement (JLCL) program that will be implemented in all of New Hampshire’s schools.

 

The Need for an Effective Program

The JLCL Movement was created by Scarlett Lewis after her son, Jesse, was killed in the Sandy Hook Elementary School tragedy.  Scarlett created the JLCL Movement, alongside many educators, to establish a free and comprehensive SEL program for all schools. From this the Choose Love Enrichment Program™ was born. It is a no-cost, downloadable, pre-K through 12th grade, evidence-based social and emotional classroom program teaching children how to choose love in any circumstance. The program focuses on four important character values – Courage, Gratitude, Forgiveness and Compassion in Action – which cultivates optimism, resilience and personal responsibility. Included elements are positive psychology, mindfulness, neuroscience, character values and more.

To-date, the Choose Love Enrichment Program has been downloaded in all 50 states and Washington DC and over 55 different countries more than 16,000 times by more than 7,600 educators, which is collectively reaching about 1,400,000 students.

 

SEL & Tapping in Schools

I’ve had the pleasure of knowing Scarlett for years. She became an avid fan of EFT Tapping when she started using it to overcome the devastating grief and trauma she was experiencing from the loss of her son. While creating the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement, we realized the importance of including a Tapping aspect to the SEL program.  Now teachers can access a free Tapping guide that correlates to the Choose Love SEL program. The Tapping guides are available for early elementary, upper elementary, middle, and high school on the website as a Tapping Extension Program.

 

 The Tapping Solution Foundation has donated over 1,000 books to teachers in New Hampshire. 

 

With the Governor’s report, there is an urge to prioritize SEL in all schools and across all levels. With the Tapping Extension Program and the SEL curriculum, students are learning the skills to manage and cope with their feelings, giving them the opportunity for life-long success academically, emotionally and socially. To find out more information about how to use EFT Tapping in your school, visit our collection of free resources.

 

 

Until next time…

Keep Tapping!

Nick Ortner

 

 

“Programs have emerged that can be a tool for prevention not only for violence, but for addiction, suicide, and the toxic anxiety that has plagued our school children for too long. I’ve had the honor of working with Scarlett Lewis. She is a national leader in social emotional learning and creator of the Choose Love movement. As a state, New Hampshire will provide a backbone of support through Scarlett’s program to introduce social emotional learning curriculum.” – Governor Sununu